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This was on Xanga..interesting! Dating series-Guy version. |
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We all know that when it comes to guy stuff, there are sequels. It doesn't matter how bad it is, there will always be sequels in guy land - so here it is. Continuing off Part 1, and based on the wonderful miss plumeria's post - here are some more things I learned..
♣) Just pray with her already - through the tough times, and especially through the good times
First of all - when you pray together you get to hold hands. SWEEET. Second of all - let's really think about this here. Your faith is the most intimate thing in your life - how awesome is it that you can share this with your significant other. But let's back it up here - during the tough times remember my last list - you make mistakes all the time. So why not have the judge and provider in your midst during this time. The best thing is, as you all pray, thoughts of love, comfort, and FORGIVENESS comes in to play - you know God is good for all that. So by inviting God in the relationship in all times - good and bad, it's just filled with all that goodness. Aka - it's like having "The Wolf" from Pulp Fiction right there - all the time....always there to help as long as you do what he says.
€) Never mention PMS
It's never that. That's all I'm gonna say about that. I don't want to die.
¶) Communicate in the language she understands
As plumeria pointed out - know your person's love language. At the same time, speak the language she understands!!! It's like how some people talk to foreigners who don't understand English - and for some reason in their skull they believe by talking louder, they can understand English better. It sense no makes! So patting her in the butt or punching her in the arm to say "good job" may not be the best choice of encouragement. Here's a big clue - think back to the beginning of your relationship and remember what she did to 'encourage' you - that'll give you a good idea.
£) Figure out your conflict resolution....in video games
Ok - let's back up here. This will be one of the more controversial ones. Stop letting her win. What's the point. At the same time, stop pointing at her face and saying "PWN'D" when you crush her too. But part of being honest is just playing like you normally would. She will eventually beat you with her epic button-smashing-as-fast-as-you-can tactic, and trust me - the feeling that she won purely on her own merit is an awesome feeling...for her. Stinks for you cause you lost to a girl, but hey - think about it - of all the girls in the world, which girl would you want to be beaten by? Ok fine - continue saying "PWN'D" cause the day she starts saying that is the greatest day ever. Seriously.
♦) Make it a point to help her become a better person
This starts with something very simple. Simply acknowledge what you notice about her - her gifts, her talents...things you find beautiful. I mean, you're attracted to her for a reason right? Don't let a day pass without letting her know. Don't try to change her, cause she's already doing that on her own - but be her number one fan, and number one cheerleader - but don't wear skirts and clap your hands and jump and stuff cause then she'll start to wonder why she's dating you.
©) Give each other space and stop calling at 4am
This one is more towards the gals out there - stop calling us guys at 4am and asking "Where are we in the relationship?" or "Tell me again what you felt when you first met me." questions like that. At 4am we were most likely in a heavy dream about punching dragons with our ninja friends, complete with eye gunk, and kickin' breath - we can barely take that question when we're wide awake. Please, stop asking that question - cause all we see in our head is Admiral Ackbar saying "It's a TRAP." But guys - recognize this - if she's doing this, she's into you. Be comforted that she's even thinking about you at 4 in the morning. So don't always grumble - yes you can panic cause you're not sure where the dragons and ninjas went, but these phone calls are a good thing.
Ok - that's it for now - and if you're wondering about the picture of sean connery, you're clearly not a guy, he's just so awesome and sweet that he should be on all posts.
Nevertheless, I'm sure I'm missing a bunch of things about dating - but random question - What's the nicest thing you did for your significant other?
 mysticzelda · Wed Jun 04, 2008 @ 07:36am · 3 Comments |
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