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All these "halp mi loze wieght plz" or "m i pretty?" threads in Life Issues kill me. Apart from violating the forum guidelines (We have a sticky about not making validation threads, and yet...), I keep seeing comments in there that are completely shitarsed. Par for the course, yes, but one of them drives me up the ******** wall and I see it off Gaia just as much if not more. It's one of those "revenge myths," a case in which discrimination and name-calling is supposed to be okay because "they started it." This won't make me popular, but thank god it's only the internets. I cannot stand this oft-repeated idea that "real women have curves." Yes, some of them do. A lot of them do, in fact. But a lot of them are boyish, or naturally rail-thin, or muscular, or just kind of pudgy. In their natural state, women have just about every kind of body type you can imagine, and favoring any one over the others is ridiculous. I appreciate that the point of this is to ease the pressure to be anorexic or airbrushed-model-looking, but implying everyone else is fake is just as bad. Is it really so hard to encourage being healthy and happy above your shape? Frankly, if you're naturally petite and boyish, trying to be "real" will require something your frame can't naturally and healthily give...which sounds a lot like girl with an hourglass shape trying to morph herself into Keira Knightley. It won't happen, and even if you get close, it'll look awkward at best, ludicrous or terrifying at worst. Plus you'll feel like s**t because you'll have tortured yourself to get there. If we're seriously so keen on rejecting body-type favoring, then let's junk this altogether and tell people to take care of themselves. Healthy people are generally happier, more secure people anyway, because they don't feel like crap from being physically out of whack and don't worry they're not "real" enough to cut it. I don't care what you do or don't do or what genetic lot you got, just...be good to yourself, for God's sake. Trying to be human Play-Doh is a terrible idea, and no, I don't say this from an aesthetically priveliged position that allows me to imagine it's always easy. I just think it's crap that no matter what camp you're in, someone else always has to take crap and be somehow less authentic, less human than you just because you said so. We're all people and we're all different, so please don't be that guy and serve as a horrible warning instead of a decent example.