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It's true. On top of your friends, family, enemies, and maybe lover, you have a relationship with yourself. What is it? Do you like yourself? Hate yourself? Love yourself? It is not a normal relationship. There is no exchange of emotions or information, but instead it is a state of being. I’m not talking about narcissists. You don’t have to be in love with yourself to love yourself. Everyone has a relationship with themselves, whether they recognize it or not.

Your relationship with yourself is very important. I can talk to a person for an hour and know what kind of relationship they have with themselves. I can talk to a person for a year and know more about them than they do. A person’s love for themselves is obvious. Do they feel comfortable around themselves? How can you expect to really know other people before you know yourself? It is easy, but when you can not only look at life from someone’s point of view but live your entire life from it, you start to understand more and more how people work.

And what about sex? You need to feel comfortable with yourself to masturbate. You need to know your body. You need to be able to lay down and relax. If you put pressure on yourself, it’s a natural dampener. Learn to work with yourself instead of against yourself and you’ll master your body and your mind.

Mastery of the mind is the most important thing in the world for me. It is the scale on which I judge other people. Willpower! Understanding! Everything you sense: see, taste, feel… goes through your mind. The world is in your head. Control your head, and you control your world.

Learning a skill, gaining physical ability or knowledge are all good, but what is most important in this world is to gain personal understanding. Understanding of you, how the world effects you, and how you can affect the world. Time spent sitting down and thinking, delving deep into your head, is the most valuable way you can spend your time. It can be difficult and strenuous, even tiring. It’s worth it though. Master your fears. Master your dislikes. Master your emotions. Master your thoughts. You will master social situations, and you will master yourself.

Make yourself a better person. Spend some time and think.